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On the subject of helping people

I have two blogs, this one and another that I shan’t name because I’d quite like to keep it private. In the other blog I document my life, the bad things and the good things. I make that blog because I like to let people know that they’re not alone in what they’re going through and because it is somewhere for me to log my life without feeling judged.

I know that that blog is really worthwhile because I get a lot of people that comment and message me saying that they are going through something similar and could they please talk to me. Obviously I’m always happy to oblige. Helping people just makes me feel a little bit better about self  – selfishly.

Being quite a risk taker I see the dangers but take them anyway – often wishing the danger would occur but that’s just me. I will do everything in my power to damage myself but if someone else were doing the same even if I didn’t know them, I’d be heartbroken. Why is it OK to damage yourself but not for others to do the exact same?

I think it’s because I can’t see the damage I’m doing to myself but it’s so much more visible on others because I’m looking for it in some ways. I’m a big believer in the fact that humans are a selfish species. We, in the majority of situations, gain something from what we are doing. For example helping an old lady across the street makes you a little happier with yourself.

Would intervening whilst someone is in self –destruction mode knowing that you could well make the situation worse helping someone? That to me is not helping. That is intervening for your own peace of mind. If I were in this position it would most likely because I couldn’t bare to see someone mistreat themselves and just sit by and watch. To me, especially if it were someone I loved, I’d feel like a second participant to their death.

When people tell me that they’re not judgemental, which a lot of people do, my first thought is – well – ‘bullshit’. Solely because if you have an opinion, however educated it may be, you are still judging something or someone. Do we judge and help people to boost our self – esteem? Would you help an old lady across the street if you really didn’t gain a thing from it – it just took time from your day? I’d like to think I would


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